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恋爱中女生是否该主动? [复制链接]

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You're probably thinking that ignoring his text messages for hours at a time is the way to go. But guys don't think the same way that we do. If you wait before answering him, he's going to think you don't like him. He won't realize that it's all a big strategy and that you're ignoring him on purpose.
Don't just text one-word answers, though – show him that you have something to say. If you two can hold an interesting conversation via text message, you might be able to chat just as well in person. It's a good start, at least.
According to experts, the old-school dating technique of playing hard to get actually works: it can make someone who's not head-over-heels for you start to view you as a potential girlfriend. However, it's not the best strategy here because it's not obvious at all – it's way too vague.
How is he supposed to know that when you pretend you're too busy to be asked out that you actually do want to grab dinner? Make sure you're giving off an available vibe so he doesn't think you're a super busy, super off-limits kind of person.

If you can make your crush laugh, you're doing pretty well and he's bound to ask you out super soon.
Let's be real: trying to make someone jealous is pretty lame. It usually backfires and just isn't the best idea. If you truly like this person and see a future with them, you don't want to mention your ex-boyfriends. At all. Same goes for anyone else you've casually dated recently.
If you want this guy to think of you as a love interest, then he needs to think that you're totally available. He won't think that way if you're always bringing up your past loves. Instead, keep your conversations light and positive.
In a non-creepy way, of course. And it has to make sense. You can't just randomly blurt out that he's so cute, smart, funny, awesome – even if you want to. He'll think you're super weird and your dreams will all be shattered within a single second.
Make sure your compliments are said in a flirty, joking, light-hearted way – and if you're texting, maybe throw in an adorable emoji in there for good measure. Hey, you don't just compliment anyone. Someone has to earn that praise. He'll get the hint.
Don’t ask him out. Ask him to hang out – there’s a big difference and it’s an important one. If you’re super casual and ask him to grab a bite sometime or head to a movie, it’ll leave his head spinning and make him wonder just what’s going on. That’s good – you want him to be confused about whether it’s a real date or a just-as-friends thing.
If he likes you as much as you like him, he’ll make the mood romantic rather than platonic and will make sure that you know how he feels. He won’t want to let it slide and will want to make you his before anyone else can.


只看该作者 沙发  发表于: 2018-05-28
  • 恋爱中我是否该主动?是该选择维持高冷形象,还是该直接向男生表达心意?相信这是困扰无数女孩子的问题。英国的恋爱专家Matthew Hussey从男生的角度说:女生要更主动些,如果你只是坐等男人来找你,那你等来的多半是渣男……


只看该作者 板凳  发表于: 2018-05-28
Don't wait for a smile to be nice.
Don't wait to be loved, to love.
Don't wait to be lonely, to recognize the value of a friend.
Don't wait for the best job, to begin to work.
Don't wait to have a lot, to share a bit.
Don't wait for the fall, to remember the advice.
Don't wait for pain, to believe in prayer.
Don't wait to have time, to be able to serve.
Don't wait for anybody else to have pain, to ask for apologies...
Don’t wait until you break up, to be a good person.
Don't wait... Because you don't know how long it will take.
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